My parents separated when I was 7 years old. Mum raised my younger brother and I single-handedly since then. The only images I remember of my dad, is that of a drunkard, chronic womanizer and a wife beater. Mum sold bean cakes (akara) and some other appetizers for a living. Life was tough, but we managed to survive. Through it all, my younger brother and I were educated to the university level. I am now a lawyer, my younger brother is an engineer and we both have lucrative jobs.
I will be getting married to my long time boyfriend and now fiance in February. All wedding plans are already in top gear. There’s one big issue though; dad wants to play his role on my big day. I’ve been thinking hard about this situation. He hasn’t been around all these years, and now, he wants to be honored? How’s that even possible? Dad’s relatives all insisted that he must be there, else none of them will attend the wedding. To make matters worse, he wants to come with his current wife.
My mum, however, said there is no way she’s gonna allow him to come. She doesn’t want him there at all, talkless of him coming with his current wife. I completely understand her stance of course. She deserves the best of all things, because she suffered a lot to take care of my younger brother and I.
The wedding day is getting closer and this predicament is draining me emotionally, and even physically. My man is worried and he comforts me all the time. What should I do now? Should I allow my dad to be at the wedding or just completely stand by my mother? Does he even deserve it?
People, please advise me…
– Janet
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Sooooo pathetic, lady follow ur mind when your mum was selling akara where were your dad relatives ? they were no where to be found .Dont be afraid make your decision and stand by it .
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no dont allow him…he failed to perform is responsibility when u were much younger
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