I will be getting married to my fiance, Dare in 2 weeks time. We have been together for almost 3 years. Throughout our courtship, we didn’t have sex. I was determined to keep my virginity till our wedding night. Dare was very cooperative, patient and loving the whole time.
Last weekend, a friend invited me to her birthday party. While at the party, I became tipsy after a lot of drinks… at some point, I blacked out. When I woke up, I found myself on a hotel bed. I had lost my virginity and I didn’t even know how I got there. I quickly showered, dressed up and went to the receptionist. She said, the guy that got the room already left early in the morning.
Since then, I have been seriously depressed. It feels like my life is over… What will I tell Dare? Will he even believe me? I don’t think he can trust me again…
Our wedding is in 2 weeks! I might just kill myself. Help!!!
Shiiit Happens!!! 
He will believe you. I’m guessing you informed him you were going to the party and probably had a chat while at the party. For embarking on the marriage journey I believe you both already have a level of trust and understanding that should make it easier to tell him about it. My concern with your story is that you are more concerned about how he will feel that you lost your virginity to someone else. It make me think that your virginity is the only (or rather the major) thing you are bringing to the table in this marriage. If you have other things to offer I doubt you will feel like killing yourself. I’m concerned you are not bothered about the identity of the person who violated you. What if he had an accomplice? What if he didn’t use a condom? What if he recorded the whole thing? What if you never catch him and you always have to feel self-conscious thinking it could be anybody out there? I don’t know how much time has passed between the incident and now. Go back to the hotel and try to find out more about your assailant. Do they have cameras? Did someone see him or can someone at least describe him. I rest my case.
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